How Men Can Be Allies

How Men Can Be Allies

Research suggests that 80% of college age men are uncomfortable when women are belittled or mistreated, but they do not express their discomfort because they believe they are the only ones who are uncomfortable.

Ally Intervention helps men express their discomfort.

STEP ONE: Notice.

Social norms often reinforce the normality of sexism and sexual assault so that they escape notice. Therefore, the first step is to know where the line is and notice when someone is crossing it.  If we understand the impact that a sexual assault can have on a survivor and the survivor’s friends, family, and co-workers, we will see someone crossing the line as a problem requiring action.

STEP TWO: Assess.

Many times men feel stuck in situations where they might intervene, because they don’t know the best way to respond. Understand the four intervention scenarios – direct vs. indirect and emergency vs. non-emergency – so you can confidently assess the problem and swiftly determine the best course of action.

STEP THREE: Swift Action.

Don’t assume someone else will do something; take it upon yourself to make it stop. You know that sexual assault in any form is unacceptable, including harassment, groping, and coercion, so object fearlessly.